I am not sure when this became a trend, but I have noticed that men, or at least those that appear to be men, are allowing women to dress them.
It is as if men, in general mind you, no longer know how to do anything, most of all prepare thyself for the day laid ahead.
I am baffled at this display of ‘Ineffectualism’ I’ll name it, that men nowadays believe that a woman knows more about men themselves, then the man could ever.
There are three things that have caused the bulk of this, a lack of fathers and fatherhood, the persistent dampening of journey and adventure, which is the nature of men, and the rise of feminist viewpoints that specifically target the evisceration of men.
I’m sure many “feminists” will take issue with summary, but fear not, because I’m not the only one that sees you are not going through a transformation, so much as a brainwashing. While some thoughts from your movement are useful, many others are not, and whether you understand it or not, they are designed to ruin relations between the sexes, as much, or even more, than the alleged masculine-centric views you oppose.
Be that as it may, a man is nothing if he is not the master of himself, and that does include how he dresses.
As men, whether we are aware of it or not, how you dress says something about you to those you interact with. You can yell all day long that it’s a social construct that has little meaning now – but the only people I see getting away with not dressing properly are people who already have their fortune, and now people are forced to respect them, come as they are.
Meanwhile, you’re getting mesmerized by their apparent control of the situations they are in, but you’re focusing on the wrong elements of that control. Many of you seem to think that dressing casual is the only way in life, and that no one cares. But people do, even those that say they don’t.
If you can’t respect yourself enough to dress appropriately for your own business, how can you ever expect to for others to respect the business that you do?
This is a topic that men need to take serious, if for nothing else reclaiming their own sense of dignity. How you can look yourself in the mirror while making your significant other into your “mommy” is beyond me. And if ever there was a setup to that significant other cheating on you, there it is.
I’m not going to insult you all by saying there is one strict formula to follow. As men, we cover all walks of life, from welders, to writers (dare I say it), to overall breadwinners. All men should have at least a blue, a black, and a gray suit. That’s a basic rule.
But even more than that, every man should have an idea of what patterns, what colors, and what styles of shirts, pants, and everything else, accentuate who they are, and what they have to offer the world.
And that is the paradigm every man should operate from, that we have something to offer the world. Because if she’s no longer interested in that, and is trying to control everything in the house, to include our appearance, she can pack her things, and leave. Or you can, that choice lies within you.
Take back your dignity, dress yourself. Do some research on the topic, learn classic attire, and branch out from there. Stay away from: GQ, Esquire, and jeans with glitter and patterns on them. Also, despite what The Rolling Stones will have us all believe, holes in clothes are stupid, seriously.
Enjoy your manhood, and quit letting people without a clue tell you how to be. It’s not their job, and it’s not your role to grant them audience. They are indeed your enemy.